Sunday, May 7, 2006

I think I have retarded/delayed ejaculation, what can I do? -

I think I have retarded/delayed ejaculation, what can I do? -

I masterbate regulary and have no troubles ejaculating on my own, but whenever I have sex and/or oral I get aroused and close to -finishing-, but I can never ejaculate.
My girlfriend gets down because she thinks it-s her fault and always asks why I can never finish, I have to finish myself off next to her which is embarising and it can take awhile.
This has happened with every one of my sexual experiences but I never thought it could be this, I only just found out about retarded/delayed ejaculation.

I-m only 17, and don-t think I can see a sex therapist, I need some advice as it makes me afraid to have sex because of embarisment and it makes my girlfriend down.
I really think your problem is nothing to do with -retarded ejaculation- (I have never heard of that before), but is all to do with maturity.

Sex is not a general pastime, nor is it a casual fling. Sex really means having a commitment of some deep and meaningful sort with some other person. It used to happen only after marriage for the good reason that the marriage ceremony signified the commitment and responsibility aspects missing in our current society.

I think this is what you are suffering from: lack of maturity. You need to realise that sex is not a casual thing, but instead a very serious and significant event that you share with one partner (wife?) for all of your life. Perhaps when you realise this aspect of sex you will be able to deal with all the other issues you seem to be dragging along with you.
Do you mean -retrograde- ejaculation (it doesn-t come out at orgasm, but later on)?

Delayed ejaculation is a big problem for those who suffer from it. You are only 17, so maybe this is nerves more than what will be normal for you. If it doesn-t go away, assure any partner that this is your problem and it has nothing to do with them. Also, you-ll have to work around your biology much like those with premature ejaculation.
Retarded ejaculation? What the heck is that? Your semen shooting out and making a stupid and crazy noise like the voice of a retarded boy?
you-re gay you ******

awkwardly ben affleck
relax it will ***.
I think I have retarded/delayed ejaculation, what can I do? -