What do I do about his premature ejaculation? -
My boyfriend and I had sex a couple of night ago whilst we were staying together away from home. I-m quite experienced whereas he is a virgin and he has liked me for ages and therefore is really nervous and wanted to do well to impress me.I made sure with him that he wanetd to do it 100% sure and he said yes... and he had brought protection with him too.
When we did it he was so nervous about showing himself to me...Overall we did it about 4 times and he ejaculated each time aprox during the first 2/3 mins (ish) Im not sure whether its because he was a virgin and is about 17 so he wasnt used to the sensation...
Anyway, he got really upset about it and frustrated with himself and started going on about how he wanted to please me etc...
The nigth after that, he avoided sex, even though I was trying it on with him... I think hes worried about letting me down. He told me that the feeling of him coming wasnt even a good one cause he cant enjoy it when he knows its happening...
I just want him to enjoy it and he cant when he constantly worries about coming too soon.
I-m trying to convince him that its jsut because hes just not used to it, but is that even true? Will he get used to it and learn to control it?
Although it doesnt bother me cause I can work around it, it is really upsetting him and he thinks he has like a major problem.
Any ideas??
Thankd
Its good in a way that he is acting like this because it means he really likes you and does not want to appear selfish. When I lost my Virginity I lasted about 1 minute (no lie), it was a mixture of -oh my god im having sex-, -oh my god this feels great- and -oh my god im really having sex, oh oh ah noooooooo- Bad thing was the girl was not my girlfriend so I could not practise. When I eventually got a girlfriend, I just had sex as much as possible (practise makes perfect after all). You need to reassure him that its normal and it will get better. He needs to get some confidence (your gonna give it to him). When he feels like he is gonna blow tell him to completely stop for a minute and kiss or something. This helped me a lot. Good luck. But remember, please reassure him otherwise it will completely crush him.
your just to sexy eh?
try this, this should do the trick
he-s inexperienced and has limited self control in that area, as he gets use to having sex more frequently the problem will get better
suck him off first
practice, practice, and more practice then.
you can-t expect too much from a 17 year old virgin
have him wear 10 condoms at the same time that will take him for ever to ***.
Give him a donut to practice on.
2-3 mins ? the man is a stayer pet, i can only manage 4 pushes...........its nice like
after a while, he will become more used to the sensation of sex as well as you. When people have sex with someone for the first time, they get really excited but after a few times, it will become less -special- to have sex and he will last longer. Tell him to pleasure himself more often to build up his endurance also.
-good luck
He can get used to it but it takes time. Each gender has a problem with their first time; girls have some pain, guys have premature ejaculation. Of course guys have their pride and such, so they really want to try hard and in actual fact, that makes them even more prone to something like that.
When you two are alone, just start something and if he-s still hesitant than just tell him something like -Let-s just keep trying and see how it goes, if it happens for me than great, if not then it-ll be okay, no pressure- and hopefully he-ll feel a little better.
It-s a matter of practice really. Guys usually get used to the sensation after the first few times so you can also ask him what he wants to do about it. If he says that maybe he should see a doctor or something like that if it persists than agree to it, but tell him that you two should keep trying for say...a month, and if it still happens than try what he suggests, which is fair enough.
He doesn-t need to worry much because it happens to a lot of people, but in the end, the more he worries, the more difficult he-s making it for himself.
keep doing it!! My first few times lasted 30 seconds lol. (not that I ws that bothered about it). Its only sex, ffs! Chill out, cuz making a bit deal out of these issues will only make it worse. Laugh about it. You-ll find he-ll last longer and longer.
If i-m too horny and finish too quickly, it only means that i-ll be ready to go again in about 30 minutes, so why not try it on again in a bit? He wont be so horny and will take longer to get there.
Main thing is, if he gets upset, don-t match his mood! it will snowball. Without offending him, make it look like its no big deal!
good luck, have fun
--lol a silent ninja uh? lol. Ohh babes, he just need experience. Don-t let him think too much about it. Make it fun and casual and do it all the time. You-re such a good girl for being patient w him