Is delayed ejaculation common? -
My husband and I just recently married. We have been sexually active with each other for 8 months now and he has yet to have had an orgasm from sex. We always have to masturbate him for him to acheive orgasm. He swears its not me but I cannot help think that....I have tried very hard to do anything I have found online to help but NOTHING helps. We have tried anything and everything except for therapy.
Any comments are welcome and I would love to hear other stories of success and what worked for you!!!
Well he is probably used to the feeling of masturbation. This is why he finds it so easy to ejaculate when he has that feeling.
One thing to do would be to have him completely stop masturbating (yes he probably does it behind your back) for a couple of weeks, and then try having sex.
Otherwise it may be that he just isn-t going to ejaculate during intercause. So what. Tonnes of women cannot orgasm during intercause unless they have clitoral stimulation. He is just a bit different, as is everybody in one way or another.
My advice is to tell you to go see a doctor, precisely what yo have not done yet. Short of that is your husband on any medication, does he drink before sex, does he smoke pot... I know that these things do affect normal behaviour in bed in precisely that way... . A friend of mine told me he had problems ejaculating when he had sex with his wife and I advised him to go see a doctor who told him what I have just told you.
Its pretty comon, look up retarded ejaculation as its now called, vibration can also help, check it out
taking things really slowly helps - ie he cannot masturbate, no sex and lots and lots of foreplay.
Make sure you don-t make him feel bad about it - but its not your fault either.
After a couple of weeks start having sex again.
If the above doesn-t work you need to -train- him that its ok for it to happen during sex ie he masturbates prior to intercourse and then at the crucial time he enters you.
No its not you. There is nothing wrong with him physically because he can get the job done by hand. That leaves a psychological problem. He may be a big fan of masturbation and possibly has a preference for it. Have you tried joining him?
Clench inside as he moves out, relax as he moves in.
Work on your clenching muscles during the day.
Could be stress, too. Just relax and enjoy.
I masturbate a lot when not getting sex but to me it is nothing in the world better than having sex.
He may need to see a doctor or is he so small that he doesn-t feel much friction when having sex. It-s not you for sure it-s his problem.
You can email me at - rhf0938@yahoo.com I have had medical training.
And you-re complaining about this?
Jeez - -He comes too quick, he takes too long- you women are never happy.
I fear that man will evolve with a stopwatch on his penis
Who is we?