Success stories with lessening anxiety and overcoming premature ejaculation? -
With my last girlfriend we fooled around a lot basically doing everything except having sex and I always found myself feeling the urge to ejaculate really early. I got good at knowing when it was coming so I would have my girlfriend stop and start stimulation accordingly while I worked on her, so we would build together and climax together. The first time we had sex, I lasted about 4-5 minutes with some stops and starts. I felt I had to be really careful about thrusting too hard or too fast because I didn-t want to push myself over the edge really quickly.With that said, I-d say I have a fair amount of anxiety. About everything, not just sex. But I-d say more so about sex. So I-m wondering if my early urge to ejaculate could be helped by breathing, relaxation etc because that would help with some of the anxiety. Has anyone had any experience and/or success with this? Thanks!
Big daddy is right.
Your kegel muscle is the reason, its weak!!
try flexing it 100 times a day.
how to flex:
when you pee, you can stop and start it right? well just do that when you are not peeing. It kinda feels like butt cheek flexing.
well, i-ll let you in on a little secret, let the first orgasm go. right before you have sex or something, go to the bathroom and masturbate the first one. it-s ok, most men do last around 5 minutes with direct stimulation, you just have to learn to go at your own beat so you don-t ejaculate too fast. also, try giving her oral sex so she does orgasm once or twice so there is no pressure for you to perform.
sounds like your on the right track. at the brink of orgasm, flex your kegal muscle 5 times then continue. this is the muscle used to stop the flow of urine. woman should do this too.
Here-s what worked for me, and I don-t know why more people don-t do this.
I used to have problems lasting even a couple minutes. It was getting to the point of depression and I was at the point of not even wanting to have sex anymore. My girlfriend would always tell me it was alright and that she didn-t care if I lasted long, but I could tell what she was really thinking.
Because i am close to my girlfriend, we agreed to work on the problem, and surprisingly we found a fun solution. We agreed that we would get completely naked, I would sit in a chair, and she would sit on top of my lap and go inside. Then we would just sit there and play computer games for an hour or so, just relaxing and keeping the focus off of the fact that I was inside of her. When I would start to go limp I would just tell her to move up and down some and it got me back up again in no time. Then we would just sit and play more computer games. Afterwards, having been inside her for so long, I was much more relaxed and when I began having sex with her, it was no problem lasting for a VERY long time.
When you are comfortable with your girl, try doing something like this. It is kinky and will help your problems go away.