Sunday, September 17, 2006

Ejaculation problems? -

Ejaculation problems? -

Im a sexually active 18 year old with a great partner.
We didn-t have sex for about 2 weeks , before this i could last for roughly 15 mins until ejaculation thus going us both great pleasure.
But this past week , we was at it again but at first i only lasted about 5 mins till i reached the -point of no return-.
I thought this could be because of mentally i only lasted a bit so we left it about two days.
We did it again earlier but instead of ejaculation , i lasted about 10mins yet when i did reach it , i didn-t even feel anything although my partner said she did?

What is wrong with me?

Please help , its ruining my sexual relationship
Thanks all


First of all relax, there is nothing wrong with you !!! Sometimes I last 5 minutes and sometimes I can go so long I get sore and give up trying. It all depends on your level of arousal.

One thing that worked well for us was something I read in a book called -She Comes First- by Ian Kerner. What you do is bring her to orgasm first (orally,manually etc.) and then you do not have to stress about how long you last. Most guys finish in under 5 minutes (despite what we see in porn) and most women need more time than that and more stimulation than intercourse can provide so it can be pretty stressful for the guy and frustrating for the woman. Also there is a product called Zestra that I got and my wife swears by it, she orgasms in half the time and with much more intensity.
It changes Bud depending on how horny you are... how tired you are... how -into it- you are.

Get used to knowing when you are about to c#m and learn to control it by -backing off- or changing position etc.

I doubt you have a problem.
Focus more on pleasing HER than on what you think your problems are. That way you are less -in your head- (i.e. worrying, which only makes it worse), and more in your heart, which is where you should be during sex.
Ejaculation problems? -