Teen Problem - Ejaculation Problem - Very New To Manhood amp; Puberty - Cant Have A Therapist. Can You Help Me? -
I want a therapist to help me but my parents say no because you pay money. It-s embarrasing for me though to tell a therapist this. Can you help me?Can you please help me, please? Thanks. Here goes:
-Well, I am 13 and a half year old male - I started to ejaculate about 2 months ago - I always wash my hands, take a bath/shower. I just, like, hate my sperm. Especially when it goes on my stuff and how it gets there by semen stuck on my hands and all that. I am new to this stuff. I also hate how when once my sperm gets on something, I chuck things in the bin (not expensive things because my parents say no plus it-s expensive). I want so help! I need help! like if I have something that is my favorite, such as an MP3 and my semen got on it, I wouldn-t want it anymore. Please help me! Thanks.
Here are few questions that I also want you to answer:
1. If a little bit of semen got on your stuff, what would you do?
2. Would you care if your semen was on your hands dried or just leave it?-
Semen is a natural substance that you such be proud of. Someday you will have kids, which will originate in you-re semen, do you really want to be grossed out by you-re own kids. You have to try and deal with it being on stuff, like every other session clean the stuff off, and don-t throw it away, increase the number of days you do this. You HAVE to try hard to correct this problem. After you have corrected it then you can move into a room with not as many objects, but you need to solve that problem first.
Don-t worry about getting someone pregnant, unless sperm are inside the vagina they die in less than a minute. Don-t be ashamed in you-re manhood, you-re a man!
oh, yes it-s dirty. you should deal with it
Well, I am 21 and started ejaculating around your age however I did not have the same problems you are dealing with.
Ejaculating feels good, right? That is why you continue to do it. Its normal and part of every boys puberty so don-t feel ashamed talking to someone about it.
99% of the world admits to masturbating, the other 1% are liars.
Sperm is gross...agreed, but its not like your eating it.
To avoid getting it on your stuff, I suggest not ejaculating near your stuff. Problem solved. Don-t get a girl pregnant!!! If you need to have sex, wear a condom but you should not be having sex at 13, wait until your mature enough..you don-t sound like you are quite there yet.
When most people do it or at least when I do it and it gets on my hands or body, I shower, I usally do it at night so I shower after...relax and good luck+
I-m guessing that your parents messed you up in your thinking about your semen, so they owe it to you to let you talk to some kind of counselor, at least your family doctor, about this.
First, it-s not all that unusual for boys to not like their own semen. My buddy in college was that way, but he got over it.
Please believe that fresh, wet semen is not -unclean waste- like your urine, it-s perfectly safe and healthy to touch, or whatever. You don-t have to scrub down after touching it. The only reason you need to wash it off your hands is that it eventually decomposes and then it can be a haven for germs. But not as it comes out of your penis.
Most guys (boys and men) use a special towel or pillowcase to masturbate and ejaculate into or to clean up with. Just be sure to wash it regularly so that it doesn-t become germy and smelly (again, not because semen has any germs in it, but because it attracts germs when it decomposes).
For every boy like you who is uncomfortable with his own semen (let alone someone else-s), there are boys who like to spray themselves with it when they ejaculate!
Bottom line: you-ll live. Semen is harmless. Try not to fret over it.
1. wipe it clean. (always secure some towel at your side to wipe your semen)
2. i will wash it of course! that-s a lot of mess.
This is all new to you, so I do understand why you-d have questions.
As to what to do with semen: Just wash your hands/junk with soap and water. It-ll come completely clean. If a spot of semen were to get left somewhere on your body long enough to dry, no big deal. It-ll flake off. If some gets on your sheets, no big deal. It-ll come out in the wash. If some gets on your belongings, like your MP3, same thing. It-ll wipe off (just try not to shoot it on your belongings!)
You-ll get used to the whole issue shortly. But there-s no danger involved with semen, and it comes clean on virtually everything.
wash it off, and don-t *** near your stuff. its very easy to control. use a tissue or a rag.
also beware of Lawrence I. Sank-s -Traumatic Masturburatory Syndrome-
I think you are right. You do need a therapist. Good luck.
Wash your hands and clean your things with wet then dry towel....better yet just masturbate where you will not bust on anything....do it on a towel or in the toilet
I can-t imagine how you manage to soil all your stuff? I-d wipe it off and leave it be.
I doubt you suffer from a phobia, but you link your fear of semen with the -unclenliness- of the act you are doing. Sooner or later you-ll realize that what you are doing is perfectly fine, and 95 % of all men do it. When you come to accept, you will no longer be intimidated by your own associations.
You do not need a therapist. You-ve just been introduced to a new stage, and it-s OK to be insecure at first.
Out of hygienical reasons, I-d reckommend you wash off afterwards.
First of all don-t be emabarrased. You don-t have anything to be embarrassed about. You said yourself that you have just started experimenting with self pleasuring. Okay, semen can be bit messy, but it is completely sterile so it wont hurt you in anyway. And it will wash out.
If you after a while you would still like to see a therapist there are plenty of help lines for to call; but I would suggest that you wnet to see your doctor, without your parents knowng, and ask him for a referal to a therapist. It will be free on th NHS.
Firstly masturbate some where, where it is nearly impossible for your semen to get on your stuff. Aha! a perfect example the bathroom when you have a shower do it in there, all the -evidence- goes down the drain and you can wash everything while your in there!
Secondly i Don-t get semen on my stuff because i masturbate in the shower!
And Third this wouldn-t happen to me becauseeeee......i masturbate in the shower! no drying up no nothing!
I-ve got one solution for you!
Masturbate, ejaculate and **** in the shower!
PROBLEM SOLVED! (:
Hope i helped,
Yours sincerely Zo.
how in the world are u busting on all your stuff that makes no since what so evr and if there is bust on my hands it doesn-t rlly bother me have a girl jack u off then it will get on her haha j/k but I don-t c y this bothers you so much if it gets on ur stuff then take a wet cloth and wipe it off (and I still don-t understand y or how its gettin on ur stuff) and its not a big deal if it gets in ur pants when girls are all ovr me I do it and its no big deal
MASTURBATE AWAY FROM UR STUFF!
problem solved