Please help. I have delayed ejaculation.? -
I-ve been dating a girl for nearly 2 months. We love each other. I-ve been unable to have an orgasm through intercourse, oral sex, or manually since starting 20mg Prozac 8 months ago. I can go for an hour w/o having an orgasm and we both get too tired for me to finish. I can still orgasm on my own but it is difficult. How do I reassure her the sex is still great? She feels like she is doing something wrong and wants to please me. She loves the sex b/c I last so long but wants me to be happy too. But, I am happy. What kinds of things could I say during and after sex to reassure her? I-ve tried but she still feels insecure about it.Do you have any tips for making it quicker? I have to use a condom. I tried the ultra thin, which works better but not a huge difference. My medicine helps me w/ depression/anxiety. I don-t want to quit taking them.
While you do have a problem it seems that your priorities are not in the right place. You shouldn-t be worried about questions concerning what you should be telling your girlfriend (i.e. What kind of things should i say before or after sex to reassure her?) These questions won-t have to be asked once you solve the bigger problem here. The bigger problem is that you are having a problem ejaculating because of certain medication. I highly recommend seeking professional advice from a physician or a specialist like a Urologist. Also it would be wise to tell the person who prescribed you the Prozac about your current condition.
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Yahoo answers is probably not the best source of counsel for a health condition like yours. Again the best thing for you to do is to seek professional advice.
Prozac can do this to ya. You need to tell the doc it is interfering with your mojo. He should adjust or change and things should go well. I hear Wellbutrin has no sexual side effects. This is to be discussed with a doctor though. I want to see **** all over the place. Good thing you can go for long time. woo hooo.
have her do stuff to you before you start sex, like oral and a handjob. it-ll get you closer to an orgasm when you finally do start having actual sex. also i-ve heard that putting some lube into the condom can help with sensation.
This is one of the side effects of taking those type of meds. The only way to fix it is to stop taking the pills. As far as I know anyways, you can try talking to a doctor or reading any info on Prozac-s website
here is some information I just got by looking it up on google:
Male and female sexual dysfunction with SSRIs - Although changes in sexual desire, sexual performance, and sexual satisfaction often occur as manifestations of a psychiatric disorder, they may also be a consequence of pharmacologic treatment. In particular, some evidence suggests that SSRIs can cause such untoward sexual experiences. Reliable estimates of the incidence and severity of untoward experiences involving sexual desire, performance, and satisfaction are difficult to obtain, however, in part because patients and physicians may be reluctant to discuss them. Accordingly, estimates of the incidence of untoward sexual experience and performance, cited in product labeling, are likely to underestimate their actual incidence. In patients enrolled in US major depressive disorder, OCD, and bulimia placebo-controlled clinical trials, decreased libido was the only sexual side effect reported by at least 2% of patients taking fluoxetine (4% fluoxetine, - 1% placebo). There have been spontaneous reports in women taking fluoxetine of orgasmic dysfunction, including anorgasmia.
There are no adequate and well-controlled studies examining sexual dysfunction with fluoxetine treatment.
Priapism has been reported with all SSRIs.
While it is difficult to know the precise risk of sexual dysfunction associated with the use of SSRIs, physicians should routinely inquire about such possible side effects.
Try drinking more water and eating more foods with citruline (such as watermelon). It seems to help some men to produce more semen.
I have the same problem, except no meds to blame. Still looking for my answer on what to do about it (I do have a bit of ED.. related??)
Anyhow, to answer your question:
1) Do you have an orgasm? I have multiple orgasms when having sex, just no ejaculation! (I have to do it later). If so, let her know that you-re having it. Work it the way you normally would, including the collapsing on her and falling asleep (assuming that she-s satisfied by this time).
2) Assure her that it-s not her - that you have the same problem with your other girlfriend-s too, even the really really hot ones. Seriously, she-ll be insecure that you are less attracted to her and therefore unable to orgasm. Let her know it-s a physical problem, and be prepared to explain it (ugh. I hate having to explain mine). Remind her that if you weren-t sexually attracted to her, you wouldn-t be able to carry on for that long.
3) Tell her that you have to work through it, and the more sex you have with her the more you-ll get over it and eventually have a great orgasm together. Well, that works for me and my problem (I think) - or WOULD work for me if she-d go for it. Unfortunately, i think she figures I-m making that part up. Would this work? Maybe. Practicinghaving an orgasm during -normal- sex (and not masturbating) might eventually work. I think it-s worth a try.