What can I/we/he do about his premature ejaculation? -
I-m sure this question gets posted a lot and I -have- read some of the prior answers. They always say to do this and that before sex and to have him wait a minute when he feels it coming on. BUT- we-ve talked about it and when he firsts starts to feel it, he immediately orgasms. There is no building and no anticipation. Like a bottle rocket...The last time we had sex it took about 45 seconds. 10 minutes later I went back for more, beginning with oral sex then sex. The second time it took merely 30 seconds. We-ve had similar issues like this before and the reason was because he hadn-t masturbated in several days. So, since we are open, I went ahead and asked him when the last time he masturbated was and he said today and yesterday.
So I-m asking what else we can do. Don-t suggest pills of any kind because we both are iffy about medications in general. We use condoms but he says he can-t tell when he ejaculates. He can tell he-s reached climax but can-t tell that anything came out...I-m not a man, so I don-t understand how this is possible...I have suggested the waiting when you feel it coming on method but he says, -It just feels so good, I can-t stop it.- Suggestions?
By the way, he is 23, I am 22. We-ve been together for 2 years - have been having sex for almost 2 years. I am not the first girl he-s slept with so it-s not a -oh my god sex sex sex!!!- problem if you know what I mean.
Thank you!!
You say you are both iffy about medicine but he should really use a numbing gel. They sell sprays in adult toy stores which the the active ingredient mainly is lidocain. If you want to go a cheaper rout then just buy some extra strength oral gel the kind used for babies teething or some tooth pain reliever liquid found in drug stores.
It works, just let it sit for a few minutes, then apply the condom. Once you get going he will be able to last longer because his pleasure will be dulled allowing you to have longer lasting sex.
This should give him the mentality and confidence that he can last longer and hopefully will not need to use it for long. After a while it becomes a a mental thing about getting nervous about coming too quick, which in turn causes him to come to quick.
I think he needs to see a doctor the doctor will tell him what-s wrong with him
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definately premature.
The reason you come too quickly when you suffer from premature ejaculation is because there��s too much friction on your penis. The stimulation gets too intense and your climax is triggered. So, what can you do to stop this from happening? You can increase the lubrication.
One common way to do this is to use shop-bought lube, like KY jelly or something. This is okay, but it��s not great. You have to keep applying it, which is annoying for you and your partner. A much better way is to pleasure your partner so much before and during sex that she becomes and stays soaking wet herself, without the aid of artificial lube.
This is a good idea for two reasons. First, it keeps things slick, so the friction is lessened and your sexual performance is extended and second, you break up sexual intercourse with other pleasurable activities which not only keep your partner wet, but also keep her turned on and enjoying the sex like crazy. Here a few ways to do this. Remember: make foreplay last at least 10 minutes and make sure your partner is very, very wet before you start penetrative sex and also, remember to use non-penetrative techniques between sex positions to give your penis the break from stimulation it needs.
Here��s how to get your partner soaking wet:
Even before starting foreplay, you need to turn your partner on. You do this by getting her in the mood. You should know how to do this already, because you know your partner better than anybody, but you can try: talking slowly and descriptively about how horny and turned on you feel and how sexy and tempting she looks.
Don��t randomly start doing this in the middle of the street. Wait until the scene and mood is right. Build it slowly and make it genuine. Begin slowly touching her, but NOT on her most sexual areas, like her breasts and between her legs. Softly touch her neck and slide your fingertips up and down her bare arms. You get the idea. Be smooth and sensual. Dedicate lots of time to teasing your partner before making oral or manual contact with her vagina. You want her to be gagging for your mouth and fingers before she gets them.
Start foreplay using your mouth and fingers. If you know you aren��t very good with oral, get practising! Read up on good techniques and use them on your girl. During oral or other foreplay, check how wet she is getting by inserting your fingers into her vagina. Keep pleasing her until she��s really wet and, well, almost sticky down there. When you start penetration, she will be really wet, so don��t dry her up by pumping her hard and fast straight away. Start really slow and steady. This will get her even wetter and will also allow you to keep your stimulation levels under control.
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It has some great techniques in it and what-s important is that... It really works for me :)