Couldnt get it up.. then premature ejaculation :S? -
Well, me and my boyfriend have known each other for ages and now we-ve decided to have sex. At first, he kept losing his erection... then finally he kept it and last all of 10 seconds or so :\.. major anti climax for both of us since we were both virgins.What can we do to sort this problem out?
Any help is much appreciated. Thanks. xx
As many people have mentioned. It-s just nerves. But also how old are you? If you are young you will find your boyfriend won-t last a great deal of time.
Next time calm him by kissing him, kissing on the neck normally helps alot also turns alot of guys on. Try rubbing his body more giving him light kisses. Simple things like that should help. You don-t have to play with him down there to get things going.
I-m guessing if you have had sex you have done all the other things. If so think how long he has lasted then? Has it been a fairly quick process or not? Depending on your answer will determine if he will last longer than -10 seconds or so-. Don-t forget though, having sex is alot more powerful than giving it by hand or mouth so its bound to occur much quicker, normally in half the time.
Everyones first time isn-t how they expect it to be, it only gets better. Don-t worry about it.
Since he-s a virgin, feeling the female body like that for the first time probably was both nerve-racking and overwhelming. You should have him research about how to control his ejaculation. You-ll have to help him to by just encouraging him whenever he does ejaculate extremely early. He-ll learn to control himself in time. Tell him that whenever he feels the orgasm coming on to slow down and remove himself and just kiss and caress until the feeling dies down some. When it does, he can continue. This is a good method to do until he can control himself. He can remove himself as many times as he wishes without ejaculate and adding on to his time. You both should research ways to control ejaculation online or at your local library. Hope this helps.
Well, sounds to me like, right or wrong, you are placing an enormous amount of pressure on your boyfriend performance-wise: Either that, or his performance anxiety has gotten the best of him; and has manifested itself physically. The best thing the two of you can do is to bring each other close to orgasm in ways that do not involve intercourse; and focus on that for awhile: When your beau is feeling less pressure on himself as for -scoring-, he will eventually hop to it, so to speak, on his own. Best wishes as to the ultimate outcome.
If he was a virgin he was probably nervous more than anything, and he-s probably been saving up his bits for a while and feeling *that* for a guy is a very unique feeling and does make people go boom rather quickly...
I-m sure it-ll get better with time :-P... Also - foreplay helps
kiss and rub and touch each other first you gotta warm up then get to it. good luck.
In a word nerves! He needs to chill out before you get down to it again.
Ja.
Come on.. the poor lads 15.. He-s gonna blow early for a few time-s before he learns to control his weapon. ok... Practise makes perfect.. be patient.,