My man suffers from premature ejaculation!! HELP? -
ohkay , my guy (and me) suffer from premature ejaculation, ive noticed its only been after the birth of our first child, im hoping its not me the reason why hes well you know!! but we want to try as many home remedies before we go to the quack!!hes taking it really hard, he feels like hes not stepping up enough for me! to be honest i dont mind not having an orgasm everytime, but it is getting at him, our actually intercorse only last bout 1 min! we try heaps of foreplay and stuff but its making thinkgs worse or should i say quicker!!
Any Help????
Something every woman should know: give him oral sex first but just before he ejaculates take him out of your mouth and stop all stimulation. This will stop any satisfaction he might have. Arouse him again and when he enters you he will last much longer.
I recommend the book -Coping with Premature Ejaculation- -- lots of good info, including things partners can do together.
Amazon should have it.
Try putting some ora jel on it, should give him a good 15 mins
happens to a lot of new fathers it will pass, in the mean time
round two will usually be normal. think of round one as a wormup. continue to talk thru it together.
Don-t worry, it is not you. If anything, you turn him on too much. You might try some of the over-the-counter vitamins for men. There is one called Libido-Max that seems to work. It is supposed to enhance libido and a longer lasting erection. Even if it doesn-t really work, as long as he thinks it does, that is all that matters.
In general, practice and relaxation will help you deal with the problem. Some men try to distract themselves by thinking non-sexual thoughts (such as naming baseball players and records) to avoid becoming excited too fast.
Some helpful techniques include the following:
Masturbate an hour or so before having sex.
The -stop and start- method:
This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. The stimulation is then removed for about thirty seconds and then may be resumed. The sequence is repeated until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.
The -squeeze- method:
This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. At that point, the man or his partner gently squeezes the end of the penis (where the glans meets the shaft) for several seconds, withholding further sexual stimulation for about 30 seconds, and then resuming stimulation. The sequence may be repeated by the person or couple until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.
Use a condom I guess. Less feeling = Longer lasting.
Maybe if he shoots some blanks prior to the dirty deed. by blanks i mean getting that first or second quicky out of the way.
could he have concerns (real or subliminal) about fathering a 2nd child?