Ejaculation problems? -
I-ve been with my current boyfriend for quite some time now, and everything is great... Except our sex life! For some reason he cannot ejaculate during our -alone time-! He gets hard and it seems like he is enjoying my -services- but still in the end it seems impossible to make him ejaculate! I try to be sexy for him, and I-d like to think I-m talented in how I pleasure him, but this is making me very insecure... Could it be because he-s a virgin? Or is it just because I don-t meet his standards? I-ve tried everything I can think of! I know he wants it because he even iniates it, but this can-t be normal! Hours upon hours for nothing! Not to be shallow, but I can-t have a healthy relationship without a healthy sex life! It-s taking a toll! I am also a virgin, and neither of us are ready to lose our virginity so my options of pleasures are limmitted, but shouldn-t I still be able to make him ejaculate without having intercourse!? Advice?
One of the other answers is on the right track.....This -man- of yours is undoubtedly a gay dude, and you will never be able to get him off.... It-s not your fault.....It-s not his fault, either, as he cannot control that it is only another dude that turns him on.
Even though you two are incompatible, you can remain friends, and right now you two need to have a serious one-on-one heart-to-heart talk. Stop denying the truth. You two need to come to terms with his homosexuality. As a close friend, you need to help him find male friends, who will be better able to satisfy his sexual urges. And, don-t let your feelings be hurt, or don-t get jealous. You did the best you could ! Encourage him to go to gay-oriented dances, nightclubs, baths, etc., so that he can become comfortable with himself
You are certainly not selfish,and you are to be praised for being so generous in wanting the best for your best friend.
Good Luck to both of you.
Guys are strange creatures and making them ejaculate can be an art sometimes. The main question here is can he ejaculate when he is alone? If he can, then I would suggest he doesn-t have ejaculatory problems.
Maybe he is nervous. You said u like making himhappy, but maybe he is worried about making you happy leading to perfomance anxiety. Try to get him relaxed and very aroused before going for the climax. Some guys do take a while to reach orgasm, others not so long. Try different things to spice it all up and see how you go!
If he is trying to save his virginity for marriage, and you are too, then the problem is likely psychological.
Orgasm is an intense emotional and physical experience. Don-t force it on him, or you will only bring with it negative emotions that will damage your relationship, bring regret, shame and compromise.
Don-t try to make him ejaculate if he is trying to stay a virgin.
could be a number of things going on here. the body makes a certain amount of semen to be used per day. maybe he-s pleasing himself without you knowing about it. he could have a low testosterone level which case he-ll need to be medically evaluated. difficult to say without knowing all the facts
Stop blowing him. Sounds like you are too young to be giving blow jobs, anyway. Does your mom know you are blowing your bf? What would she say and think if she found out you were blowing your bf?
He is probably the -freaky- type and likes to have a finger in his butt while being blown. Have you ever thought of that? Stimulating the prostate gland in the butt makes men come like crazy, you dumb whore!
Cheers
Listen, is he on any anti depressant drugs? If he is than that is most likely the reason he can not finish. zanex and other drugs can totally make it impossible to finish.