Premature Ejaculation? -
Can premature ejaculation be corrected by books like on sex life help.com? Is it really that easy? They say it-s mainly mental.
Are you having sex with another person?
Like alot of times that is a unreal fear with just masturbation. If you are just masturbating iits a whole different ball game. Its you knowing you, not needing to sustain because you don-t have to please anyone but you, not wearing a condom.
If its with your Shag-mate then you mgiht be having a few problems. Are you stressed about pleasing her? Truthfully, if she isn-t cool with waiting for you to get better than tell her to shut up or fire her ***.~lol
Maybe your thinking to hard about the orgasm.
Are you chasing the orgasm? Like are you anticipating it so much that you are already half way done before you start?
You solve that by having so much sex with that girl that its no longer THE BEST activity in the world. Its just another part of being in a relationship (casual or mono).
Maybe you have no rythme. ~lol No i-m playing...that has nothing to do with anything. But putting on slow music and seeing if you can hump through a song. Then try two songs.
then three...next thing you know you are at a point where you are asking her when she wants you to finish. And thats a POWERFUL FEELING.
and.......if its truely one of those things where age is just catching up with you (I can-t speak to that i-m still young). I don-t know how to help you. I mean....my father is probably 48 this year I think, he has like 2 girlfriends and fiance-, a twelve hour work shift 6 days a week. And he works out.
He drinks soy milk and eats really healthy. Like fish, and he runs. And he boxes. Well we both do. But he told me about this drink containing horny goat weed. And he takes a swig of ginseng. And multi-vitamins....
But If you aren-t into that whole lifestlye changing (i completely feel you) try breathing excercises while masturbating and having sex. breath deep and notice how the feeling leaves your pelvis. And that leaves you more time and strokes to let your girl know why she-s laying there with you and not someone else.
You should also do this.....rules I live by with sex.
Never put your man into until you finger her first. I mean water running up your arm wetness. It sounds -young- but anticipation shows two things....that you are calm, trustworty and in control and once you finally put it in there she will enjoy it coz she had to wait for it. makes her appreciate it. If its a quickie then she should be wet anyway....if not then check your manhood a little.
Second, if it feels too good stop. And if she wants you to go longer......just put on a condom. Condoms suck and they take alot of the feeling out of sex...but that can be good because she-s still going to be getting off. And no little ones til you are ready.
And think everytime you thrust you are trying to put a piece of yourself into her. Your spiritual self. If its just raw masculine hard sex or if its thoughtful giggly sex, or if its that I won-t see you for a year coz i-m going on a deployment thrust....do that.
Even if she decides to sleep with another guy your goal is to have her wanting it from you. Thats what sex should be like for you.
Man let me stop giving you all my secrets.~LOL
Smooth sailing man, you-ll be fine.
((excuse my spelling)
You don-t need to waste your money on books. All the info you need is available online. Just use Google.
Also, its true that its mainly mental, but obviously not all of it.
If you masturbate, try bring yourself right to the edge of orgasm but don-t let yourself. Instead, hold it in. Wait a minute or so and then do it again. Do it a few more times and after a while you-ll condition yourself to know where your -point of no return- is and you-ll know when its time to slow down or stop and direct your attention somewhere else while you calm down and are ready to go again. It also helps not to focus on the orgasm. This is the mental part.
The physical part comes into play by being able to squeeze and prevent ejaculation. Next time you-re peeing, stop and take notice of what muscles you squeezed to make it stop. Then, next time you-re sitting down somewhere, work out these muscles by squeezing and holding for 10 seconds at a time. These exercises are called Kegels. Eventually you-ll strengthen the muscles and be able to hold in ejaculations better.
Good luck!
Its true that it is mainly mental. Try doing the exercises that have been talked about. They can add some time but not a lot though. The one thing that helped me the most was a topical cream. It added a good thirty minutes to my time. It really changed my sex life. Good luck,
You could try a supplement. I take Mojo Risen. The site is mojorisen . com. It helped me last another 20 minutes on top of my usual time!
yeah....just practice a lot...