Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Complete opposite of premature ejaculation? -

Complete opposite of premature ejaculation? -

Ok well I-ve been seeing this guy for awhile now and things have started to get sexual. I gave him head but he couldn-t c u m, he says that it felt good and he felt close a few times but he just couldn-t get there then the other night we had sex (it was my first time but not his first) and he didn-t c u m. It sorta went down, maybe cos i was on top and it took awhile to get it in the pressure might be to blame but we went for ages before that (like an hour and a half) and still nothing.....what could be causing this? is it me? is it him? is it serious??
OK, there are a few things that could be causing this...

(Oh, and just because I-m 15 doesn-t mean I don-t know stuff. It-s down to you whether you trust me or not)

Now, 1) He COULD be masturbating too much. See, when a guy masturbates, his brain recieves 2 signals. One is the pleasure of the stimulation (no duh), and the second one is the movement of his hand. Over time, the brain fuses those two functions, so: Pleasure = Hand movement. He literally has to feel his own penis to get off. It takes a while to break the habit, but it is possible. 2) It COULD be your fault. I-m not some sexist pig who-s saying -It-s all your fault-. Each girl has their own ways of pleasing guys. Ask him what he wants, and how he wants it. 3) It-s not serious. The Hand/Pleasure routine CAN be broken, so just tell him to lay off the masturbating. If he-s anything like me, he can-t/won-t, so it-s down to you to bring him to completion. And look on the bright side, 1) You-ll get better with practice, as you both get more in tune with each other, and 2) YOU get more pleasure the longer he lasts. Don-t think you failed him because he didn-t finish.
this will sound stupid but... probably masturbates, this would lead to him being less sensitive and less likely to c u m easy. Solution, ask him to show u how he gets himself off and try n replicate it. don-t tell him he masturbates to much though its not a good thing to blame him for the problem
maybe you were stressing him out and he could not unload or that you were doing it wrong.

ask him what his style is and see if you can do it the way he likes it and then it might improve your sex drive.
I would like to know about this as well, my husband takes forever to -get there- and its really frustrating. After about 40 min it just gets boring and painful.
It means he doesn-t find your body attractive enough, and therefore you are not worth his ejactulation. He must think hes better than you. You should cut his d*ck off!
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Complete opposite of premature ejaculation? -