Question about pre-mature ejaculation please help!!!? -
ok i-m 21 years old and I haven-t experience sex so many times only about 10 times with like 5 different girls and i always ejaculate before we even start, like it takes me about 20 seconds after penetration when i-m feeling like ejaculating already and when i masturbate it also takes me about 2 minutes, i get really worry about it when i-m with a girl because it-s embarrassing and i always make up a lie or something, what can i do to fix this problem and what might be the cause please help me thanksElizabeth? Anyway, if you need this question answered for yourself or your boyfriend you should start doing kegel-s. It is an exercise that will help you a great deal. You can also take sudafed in the meantime.
Well, Elizabeth, you just need to have more sex than you-ve been having so you can control yourself with more ease.
My first suggestion is masturbate shortly before you have sex so you can come more slowly when you-re with your girl. Or, if she is willing, have like ten condoms on hand and do it as many times as necessary to make sure your partner also climaxes.
At your age this is fairly common but if you don-t learn to control your ejaculations ,either by masturbation or having repeated sex with your partner, she is likely to become so frustrated that she will look for another lover or sexual outlet. So, you are right to be concerned, Elizabeth.
Some guys try to think of other things to slow themwelves down. Try to distract yourself from the sex act to slow down your premature ejaculation. Others use like two condoms at the same time to lessen the sensitivity and slow themsaelves down. Still others try to find a partner that isn-t so hot that they can-t control the mselves. There are many ways to gain control over your tool so you can satisfy your lover.
you can learn how to slow it down by getting close to climaxing while masturbating then slowing down, then building up again and slowing down.
This will get you used to stopping yourself before climaxing.
also take very deep breaths, and try to focus on breathing out all the tension inside you.
also, when you-re about to climax your balls will pull up into yourself a little, if you pull them back down (carefully!) while breathing deeply and taking a break from sex for a few seconds, you should be able to let it subside a bit till you-re ready to go again.
also condoms might help. getting drunk will numb you a little and make you more relaxed.
I would also spend some time learning how to eat a girl out, that way you-ll be able to satisfy them regardless of the state of your penis.
Some people have that same problem. I hear a lot of the same thing from people at work.the cause in some people have a lot of nerves there. There is a few things you can try that will help. 1st is try a prolong cream or spray. It will help with the sensitivity issue by numbing your penis. 2nd is try a pill like Stiff Nights. it helps prolong and keep erections. The other thing is to get really good at foreplay. This way you can compensate for the problem you are having. I have the same problem and i found these to work the best for me. Its nothing to be embarrassed about.
It appears that somewhere in your 21 years you got your sexual orientation mixed up so here is the information you really need. Lesbians do not ejaculate regardless of what is inserted into them, it just feels good. Once you understand that, all your worries will go away. If necessary, let the other person guide you in what is pleasurable for both of you.
Are you a guy or girl? How come your name is a girl-s name?
Anyway, IF you are a guy.
Dont worry, you are simply too stressed. Start by foreplay, and start slow into her body.
You will find that your ejaculation will come NATURALLY.
I don-t know why young guys worry about this. If it happens too soon, just wait a couple of minutes and go for it again. In thirty years you will be happy to ejaculate at all.
The fact that you always ejaculate after just 2 minutes of masturbating tells me that you-ve gotten into the habit of always climaxing fast. You are not in touch with the signals your body gives you, and have no control over your arousal response. The novelty and excitement of being with another person, and a new one at that, adds to the excitement and pushes you over the edge that much sooner.
To fix this you have to go back to square one and do some remedial masturbation. This time, practice going as slow as possible. Slow down your movements if necessary. Pay attention to the feelings in your body. Learn to recognize that feeling that you are about to climax, and stop or slow waaaay down before you go over the edge. Relax and build up to the edge again several times before you let go into climax. Eventually your body will get used to this longer build up sequence. You may find that your orgasm is more pleasurable when you sneak up on it this way. When you-re in touch with the signals coming from your body, you can employ this technique when you-re with another person. When you feel yourself reaching the point of no return, stop what you-re doing and rest or switch to some other position or activity.
There-s no need to make up a lie if you pop too soon. Just tell your partner that she-s so exciting you got carried away. And above all don-t stop making love just because you climaxed. Continue kissing, licking and stroking her. You-re quite young, you can probably get another erection fairly soon and continue. Even if you don-t, you can give your partner a climax even if your penis is out of commission. Use your hand and your mouth on all those special spots. She may like that king of climax even better than the standard penis-in-vagina mode anyway.