What to do about premature ejaculation? -
Few months ago I had a first serious girlfriend. We decided to have sex...i was really anxious that day, so before sex we had watched a movie, we touched each other and it happened. My penis wasn-t even hard, but i just ejaculated. No sex that evening.then each time i hung with her, even if we weren-t preparing to make love the same stuff happened. We eventually broke up, and i-m not sure how to look for another girl now... it-s f...d up
Also some info... i-m in early 20s, still a virgin :( , and a bit on the anxious side of things.
anyone have any idea of what to do?
Thanks
That sucks man
I-d cut yourself some slack. Your premature ejaculation is just you being SUPER EXCITED to get close to a girl. You-re a virgin too, so you-re obviously going to be super nervous/excited. Be patient, and try not to be too upset when it happens the first couple round in front of the girl. When you get in a good rhythm, you should be able to perform within a reasonable period. If it still persists for a lot of sessions, work around your biology (masturbate before, go round two, MASTER oral sex, wear a condom.)
well you cant stop pre ejaculation and its not a bad thing either! my boyfriend does it all the time when he gets excited haha. and millions of people do it too...thats why they have a name for it...it just means you get excited really easily..its not big deal
Usually they say you should jack off before you meet someone so you won-t do it as much.
Treatments and drugs
Treatment options for premature ejaculation include sexual therapy, medications and psychotherapy. For many men, a combination of these treatments works best.
Sexual therapy
In some cases, sexual therapy may involve simple steps such as masturbating an hour or two before intercourse so that you-re able to delay ejaculation during sex. Your doctor may also recommend avoiding intercourse for a period of time and focusing on other types of sexual play so that pressure is removed from your sexual encounters.
The squeeze technique
Your doctor may instruct you and your partner in the use of a method called the squeeze technique. This method works as follows:
Step 1. Begin sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate.
Step 2. Have your partner squeeze the end of your penis, at the point where the head (glans) joins the shaft, and maintain the squeeze for several seconds, until the urge to ejaculate passes.
Step 3. After the squeeze is released, wait for about 30 seconds, then go back to foreplay. You may notice that squeezing the penis causes it to become less erect, but when sexual stimulation is resumed, it soon regains full erection.
Step 4. If you again feel you-re about to ejaculate, have your partner repeat the squeeze process.
By repeating this as many times as necessary, you can reach the point of entering your partner without ejaculating. After a few practice sessions, the feeling of knowing how to delay ejaculation may become a habit that no longer requires the squeeze technique.
Medications
Certain antidepressants and topical anesthetic creams are used to treat premature ejaculation. Although none of these drugs are specifically approved by the Food and Drug Administration to treat premature ejaculation, some treatment guidelines recommend their use for this purpose. You may need to try different medications or doses before you and your doctor find a treatment that works for you.
Antidepressants
A side effect of certain antidepressants is delayed orgasm. Doctors suggest men who have premature ejaculation can take antidepressants to benefit from this specific side effect.
Your doctor may prescribe one of several selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) such as sertraline (Zoloft), paroxetine (Paxil) or fluoxetine (Prozac) to help delay ejaculation.
If the timing of your ejaculation doesn-t improve, your doctor may prescribe the tricyclic antidepressant clomipramine (Anafranil), which also has been shown to benefit men with this disorder.
You may not need to take these medications every day to prevent premature ejaculation. Taking a low dose several hours before you plan to have sexual intercourse may be enough to improve your symptoms.
Other side effects of these antidepressants can include nausea, dry mouth, drowsiness and decreased libido.
Topical anesthetic creams
Topical anesthetic creams containing lidocaine or prilocaine dull the sensation on the penis to help delay ejaculation. Applied a short time before intercourse, these creams are wiped off when your penis has lost enough sensation to help you delay ejaculation.
Some men using topical anesthetic creams report reduced sexual pleasure because of lessened sensitivity. Although the cream is wiped off before intercourse, in some studies female partners reported that it also reduced their genital sensitivity and sexual pleasure. In rare cases lidocaine or prilocaine can cause an allergic reaction.
Psychotherapy
This approach, also known as counseling or talk therapy, involves talking about your relationships and experiences with a mental health professional. These talk sessions can help you reduce performance anxiety or find effective ways of coping with stress and solving problems. For many couples affected by premature ejaculation, talking with a therapist together may produce the best results.