Premature ejaculation? -
it seems the moment my partner touches me penis, i want to ejaculate, is it common? r there any ways of stopping it?
In general, practice and relaxation will help you deal with the problem. Some men try to distract themselves by thinking non-sexual thoughts (such as naming baseball players and records) to avoid becoming excited too fast.
Some helpful techniques include the following:
Masturbate an hour or so before having sex.
The -stop and start- method:
This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. The stimulation is then removed for about thirty seconds and then may be resumed. The sequence is repeated until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.
The -squeeze- method:
This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. At that point, the man or his partner gently squeezes the end of the penis (where the glans meets the shaft) for several seconds, withholding further sexual stimulation for about 30 seconds, and then resuming stimulation. The sequence may be repeated by the person or couple until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.
so..........do it n go again.......
jerk off first
By the way, I don-t know why women get so upset about premature ejaculation, it-s never premature for me, it-s always bang on time.
i kno wat u mean i ejaculate early as well i try to train myself by counting to 30 secs b4 i *come* :)
Maybe this article will help. I-ve tried using creams and sprays to delay myself but I prefer doing kegel exercises to strenghten my pc muscle. That way I can enjoy sex with full-feeling in my penis, but when I am about to ejaculate I can clench for 30 secs then continue again. The bonus is that just before you ejaculate your orgasm is strongest. If you can hold back at just the right point you get the orgasm without the ending. You can do this as often as you need - multiple male orgasms, fantastic. Anyway, take a read of the article as it gives some helpful ways to practice kegel exercises
Depends on how old you are. Younger men fine ejaculation a -quicker- event than older men. If you feel you are going to ejaculate to early there are 2 methods. 1. Gentle pressure just below your knob on the frenulum and keep it there until the feeling subsides. 2. This is gonna sound strange but the perineum is another place to press (the area between your sack and your crack). You need to press quite firmly there for a little while and the feeling goes.
At last.....a very sensible and mature answer....from Denise H.
Well done Denise!
You say your 16 so is this partner male or female? as I see you said before that you were turned on by boys!!
Have a tug before she comes around. It-ll last longer
A problem that is more common than you would think. Perhaps you are anticipating the delights to come too soon. Try and think of what you can do for your partner and use your imagination. Ask your partner to leave your penis alone for a while and you play with your partner. There are techniques you can use, masturbate before sex to take away the tension, go again if you come too soon, extend your sessions by introducing toys to play with your partner. -The Joy Of Sex- by Alex Comfort gives more advice on this. Believe me, it is a passing phase and once you relax your performance will improve. Take a bottle of wine to bed and enjoy a glass or two during fore and after play. RELAX!!!! Is there any underlying tension in your relationship that is causing you to lose you confidence? Don-t forget your biggest sexual organ is your brain so use you imagination!
There are several ways of prolonging the final result. You could try masterbating before sex so the excitement is not so intense. You could think of something less sexually exciting to take your mind off it. You can pinch your penis just below the head with your finger and thumb on the top and bottom of the penis thats supposed to control ejaculation.
You could visit your GP to seek some advice.
These are some helps for permanent cure
Yoga, meditation, Pilate
Breathing exercises
Tapping technique and EFT
Affirmations and Self Hypnosis or Self Talk.
Reading good books like “Chicken soup for the soul”
Exercise - home or gym
Acupuncture helps for addiction and cure try www . acupuncture . com
Chinese Herbal medicine is very good
Go the toilet and empty the bladder before sleep
Do not overeat or eat late and do not drink water within 2 hours before going to bed.
Check for prostate infections or inflammations
Check for glandular imbalance
Try KEGEL Exercise
Music therapy – Listening to soft melodious music, Mozart or Handel for example.
Good luck
A lot of good suggestions came in before I answered so sorry if i repeat anything said previous.
Taking from your short question sex is still pretty new to you, if so you need to relax. For the first few times you will probably go pretty quick, and as you said even if it is just being touched. this is really because of a few things that could be going on.
Mainly if I am correct the things that you are doing are new sensations that your body has never experiences before, if you watched the Matrix you would get the same idea from when Neo opens his eyes and they hurt because it was the first time he had ever truly used them. The same goes for this situation. After a while you will become accustomed to the sensation and it will be easier to control.
The other thing is I think you may need to relax, if you think it is going to happen then it probably will. sit back and enjoy the experience and don-t stress out to much. Take time to play and explore each other and I am not just talking about the genitals, discover your partners whole body and learn what feels good for them, and tell them what you like as well. This can make you not only feel more relaxed with your partner but will bring you closer and make lovemaking a lot more fulfilling.
Masturbating before you have sex can be a good idea as it will reduce the sensitivity of your penis and help from over stimulation. Just remember most guys will suffer -downtime- where it may be difficult to get it back for a short time after ejaculating, but to make it more fun why not ask your partner for some -assistance in pulling it off-.
Just enjoy what you are doing, relax and take your time and you should find improvement.
Most men experience this at some point. The best bet is to try and get your self to hold back a little longer each time. Also when its about to happen pull back and calm down for a second. It will take a while to work it up to last longer but it will happen.