I have a problem of delayed ejaculation,which will last upto 45 mins precisely.is it normal? -
what is the problem with me and what is the solution?can anyone help as my wife is complaining.i am 35yrs old.
First I want to ask you are you drinking? Is there drugs involved? What about medications? If you answered Yes I would suggest that you find out which is the problem and slow down or stop .... because all of those things can have an effect on how long you last.Plus you are still young. If you answered ....NO to all of them then I would say how long have you been married , when the body become used to the same thing it takes longer to get to the boiling part. If that is the case try this buy your wife something really sexy you need to do something different she needs to be different .......Try something new you need to see her like you never seen her before and I bet you will not last long at all. Wish You Luck.
That is a problem. It is not normal. Have your been having this for a long time or was it just recent? Sometimes stress and medicines (certain type of drugs) can cause this problem. Liquor or alcohol intake can also add to the problem. Try relaxing and get a full body massage. Probably go on a vacation with your wife. However do not expect it to get fixed immediately. It might take several vacations and relaxation before any signs of improvement will show. For the mean time try getting a doctors opinion.
You can also do something different. Get yourself ahead of your wife when having sex. After 35 minutes of masturbation and stimulation, you can then ask your wife to join in. Put some lubricants (water based) to enhance the pleasure of masturbation. It is also important that your wife knows your sensitive or G-spot. She can probably lick your nipples or testicles or even give you anal play (if you are open to the idea). Explore the different aspects of sex.
Some medications can cause delayed ejaculation (i.e. Prozac).
More than likely if it is not alcohol or drugs, then it is the fact that you do not feel comfortable around a woman.
There is a technique I read about once in a book that I will share and see if this helps:
1. Urinate with your wife in the other room, listening to you.
2. Urinate with her right outside the bathroom.
3. Urinate with her in the bathroom.
4. Have her hold your penis while urinating.
Move to each step after getting comfortable with the previous step.
This should take care of the intimacy problem.
This is what worked with me also.
Lastly, if you masturbate, stop.
The problem is there is no problem.
is she turning you on enough? i dont like it when a guy lasts that long, it means he is not really into the girl or enjoying it.