Premature ejaculation? -
everytime i have sex it literally takes me less than 1 minute to ejaculate. I really would like to last longer. i do masturbate frequently but for some reason i go really fast.
i dont like this and want to last longer... help!!!?
Masturbate more and build up your stamina. And then just slow down when you-re about to finish during sex...go slow...then start fast again. I dunno.
Hi,
The following techniques may be beneficial in delaying ejaculation:
The -stop and start- method – in this method, the man learns to recognise the stage after which he cannot control ejaculation. The treatment method trains the person to remove the stimulus just before that stage is reached so that the urge to ejaculate is controlled. For example, when during masturbation, the man reaches a point just before ejaculating, he stops the stimulus until he starts losing the erection. Once the stage is past, he can resume the activity. This process is repeated again and again until the individual is able to delay ejaculation till the time he wishes. This method called the -Masters and Johnson method-, is most effective when the help of the partner is sought during actual intercourse.
The squeeze technique – in this method, the partner gently squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before the point of ejaculation thereby -cancelling- the orgasm. This process can be continued until the couple decides mutually to reach the climax.
Desensitising creams and gels are available in the market that reduce the sensitivity of the penis and help men reach climax later. Some men also feel that condoms reduce the sensations and, in addition to providing safer sex, help them last longer.
The couple can also experiment with sexual positions as some positions offer more control than others and may help to delay ejaculation.
There are three reasons why you may be suffering from premature ejaculation.
One reason could be, that as an adolescent, the masturbation habits you developed may have led to this. Typically adolescents masturbate with the intention of reaching orgasm quickly, thus premature ejaculation has been “grooved” into your system.
Now for the second reason, let’s face it we’d all like to be able to make love for hours. There’s one problem though. The body sees sex as a means to reproduce. That said your body is going to try and reproduce as fast and efficiently as possible. This is why premature ejaculation mostly affects men in their teens and 20’s.The catch is, now you have to learn how to control it.
3. The third cause of premature ejaculation is the inability to handle and control intense arousal and sexual stimulation. Once arousal reaches a certain tipping point it becomes almost impossible to hold back ejaculation.
In your pelvic region, various muscles come into play during the ejaculation process. If you can identify those particular muscles and if you can use exercises to develop control over them then you can attain total ejaculation control. For controlling premature ejaculation one should focus on various emotions, thoughts and perceptions that are proven to cause premature ejaculation.
There are some techniques like heart rate technique, breathing technique, training of glans, masturbation and sex techniques. You may find the detail on following website
this will help
http://www.themedguru.com/articles/prema…
How do I control myself? How can I last longer, be firmer and do better? These are some of the questions men with premature ejaculation asks themselves every day.
Premature ejaculation or PE is most common sexual problem faced by many males. In simple terms it means any ejaculation which happens sooner than desired. If it happens once in a while, then one need not to be worried but if it’s frequent, then it can cause tension between a man and his partner.
Recently a new definition of premature ejaculation was presented by the International Society for Sexual Medicine panel of experts at the American Urological Association-s annual meeting.
The panel said, PE should be defined as -a male dysfunction characterized by ejaculation which always or nearly always occurs prior to or within about one minute of vaginal penetration; and, inability to delay ejaculation on all or nearly all vaginal penetrations; and, negative personal consequences, such as distress, bother, frustration and or the avoidance of sexual intimacy.-
According to the health experts one in every three males is affected by this problem. Some men ejaculate right before penetration while some others ejaculate soon after penetration or as soon as foreplay begins. It varies from person to person -- the good news is that the problem can be treated but many a times, men feel embarrassed to talk to their health care provider or GP about it or seek treatment including psychological counseling, medications and learning sexual techniques to delay ejaculation can improve your sexual life.
One cause for the premature ejaculation is anxiety; many times men are worried about their performance in bed or stress at office or home, takes its toll in bed in the form of premature ejaculation. Some biological causes also lead to this problem.
Classification:
The GP after asking ones sexual history, will classify premature ejaculation as either primary or secondary:
? Primary premature ejaculation (Lifelong ) – A man will fall in this category if he has never had a control over his ejaculation from the time he has become sexually active or the doctor is unlikely to diagnose an underlying cause for the problem.
? Secondary premature ejaculation (Acquired) – If a man was able to control his ejaculation previously and had a satisfying sexual life without any problems. It is also most commonly associated with erectile dysfunction.
Causes:
Though, earlier experts thought the causes to be just psychological in nature, now they know it is due to complex interaction of biological and psychological factors such as:
Psychological causes
^ Stress (office or home)
^ Guilty feelings
^ Fear
^ Anger
^ Rushing around
^ Feeling anxious about rejection
^ Negative sexual experiences in childhood
^ Taboos or beliefs about sex
Few other factors which can cause premature ejaculation are:
? Anxiety -- Many times anxiety has been blamed for the problem of premature ejaculation for example a man worrying too much about his performance in bed or caused by other issues such at stress at home or work.
? Erectile dysfunction -- Erectile Dysfunction also known as ED or impotence is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection that is firm enough for a man to have sexual intercourse.
Biological causes
There are various biological factors which can play a major role in developing premature ejaculation such as few thyroid problems, infection of the prostrate, unusual hormone levels, change in the brain chemicals level (neurotransmitters), abnormal reflex activity of the ejaculatory system and inherited traits.
Treatments:
Don’t be shy to talk to your doctor or sex therapist about the problem. He may suggest you different treatments and see which one suits you best.
1. Squeeze technique: Be open with your partner and talk to her about the technique beforehand. While having sex when you think you are at the point of coming, ask your partner to gently squeeze the head of your organ. This will help in delaying the urge to ejaculate. A little practice will help get the right pressure.
2. Kegel exercises: These are the exercises of pubococcygeus muscles (PC) muscles. A man can do these exercises anytime and anywhere and no one will even know about it. To identify the muscles of your pelvic floor stop your flow of urine next time you go to the bathroom. Contract the muscles tightly holding for 10 seconds. Do this thrice a day repeating 10 times. The PC muscles control the urine and semen and firmness of your organ during erection, so keeping them strong means good sexual life.
3. Sexual therapy: A male is sometimes asked to masturbate an hour or two before having sex because a second erection afterwards usually lasts longer. The therapist also recommends feeling and touching other parts of the body during sex
I think too much masturbation is harmful for your body.
In clinic, Prospermia and ejaculating too soon are usually equated. But strictly speaking, there are difference between them. Prospermia means that during sexual intercourse, men erecting penis just ejaculate when it insert **** and don-t twitch. And then penis softens and finally cannot finish sexual intercourse.
this site can help you deal with your problem.I will give you one site in the source.
The male orgasm/ejaculation involves the contraction of many muscles in and around the pelvic region.Mind plays an important role during ejaculation.If you know how to identify these muscles and how to control your mind,ejaculation won-t happen until you desire.Natural treatments are best to delay ejaculation
http://www.prejaculationcure.info
Exercise To Control Premature Ejaculation
The Start Stop Technique: The basic technique is stimulation of the penis until just before the point of orgasm, and then stopping stimulation until arousal is lower. Start stimulating again and the process is repeated until desired length of time until orgasm is reached, You may lose your erection when you stop the stimulation, but just start again. The most Important part of this exercise is to try everyday if possible. This exercise may take 3-5 months for improvement.
Pelvic floor muscles: Stop the flow of urine while you are peeing. As you are peeing, intentionally stop the flow of urine. Do this several times until you can clearly feel the muscle you are using to stop the flow.
http://www.sexualweakness.com/premature.…
Use your masturbation as practice in lasting longer. Quick finishing is very common among young guys, but they all need to learn to hang on until their partner is satisfied, or they-ll find themselves leading pretty lonely lives.
The techniques that make solitary masturbation work are different from those that satisfy a female partner. She needs a lot of moisture and slippy/slidey motion between you and her. Some guys never get over preferring the feeling of their own outer skin sliding over their firm inner core.
No you are doing wrong.
Masturbation increases the PE . This is for sure or else try it
As most men dont have correct guidence on PE so they choose the easiest way to masturbate to elongate the sex time. In most cases it wount work.
Dr Anil Kumar
Specialist Sexual Medicine
dr.anilkumar@hotmail.com
It helps if you masturbate before engaging in sexual activity. It will help you last longer.
Find something on the other person-s body to focus on. Don-t move at your speed, let them dictate how it goes, position, etc. Bite yourself, pinch yourself occasionally. Distract yourself from how it feels down there.
well if thats happening then oh well just finish. wait for another erection and go at it again. my girl and i go multiple times in a night and i dont have PE
Lots of excellent answers here. You might want to have a look at this site http://tiny.cc/TqQUg. I hope it helps
try to resist your self from going to fast, Take it slow and steady
two condoms i think works.
Premature ejaculation? -